Author: Manuel Santiago
I was born under Generation Y, commonly called "The Millenials". There are a lot of qualities that are tied to a Millenial's behavior but I want to focus on what I consider a common trait amongst some of my peers. Millenial or not I was raised to not plant any roots anywhere until I found "The Place". Whether this was common place or not, my parents taught us not to settle. They always told us that if you work hard and you do good work you don't need to settle. This may likely stem from the opportunities our parents worked so hard to get us. I've been living in the states since 2010, since then I have moved three times in search of a new place we can call home. I never realized this was a behavior I carried out until I had moved for my third time. During this pursuit of a new place to call home we have met some amazing people and have had the opportunity to cultivate friendships in each of the state's we've lived in. Each time we left our old home we always get a little sad of the piece of our lives… a part of our story that we left behind.
Yet we still recover and move on and create new stories each time. But why is it that it's so easy for us to be able to move around so much without feeling like we never truly left our original home. I realized as I was playing through a GTA V heist mission with my Mom that I still feel some connection with her as we play through a mission together. The fact that we are able plan a mission together before we play, kind of like a Pre - Mission Meeting, which was held while she drove around town showing off her new ride. Then the mission starts and we are constantly communicating enemy positions, what our status is and what to expect from the mission after we're done with a section. All these avenues to express ourselves together really trigger that same sense of connection I had with her when she would sit down and build legos with us.
As I realized this I started recalling different times of my life where something like this would take place. I had moments like these when Red Dead Redemption came out, me and a couple of friends would spend hours just killing of each others horses. It was interesting that our conversations the next day were about our experiences from the day before. This relatable stories just made hanging out with each other that much more fun. We would go out and play pool and talk about who's horse was going to get it first next time we played Red Dead Redemption Online.
This aspect of online gaming is what I get addicted to, a way to connect with people you love and care for and find ways to make new connections with others. It's because of these connections we make that I find it possible to live so far from our friends and family and not feel this overwhelming need to move back. I lived in a transition period where relationships used to be built by experiences shared face to face with other people and they later moved to these more disconnected experiences. Millenial or not I believe that this generation views relationships differently. I worry as to how my children view relationships and connections, I'm hopeful that they can share experiences like these with other people, whether they are friends or family.